How to create psychological safety for yourself
How do you create psychological safety for yourself?
Although there is much to be said about the responsibility of an organisation or manager to take responsibility for psychological safety, we cannot expect that self-safety is outsourced to those around us.
Many people don't get taught this skill. Our society, our upbringing, the values of our society, and our caregivers will have instilled in us our thinking and behaviour habits pertaining to hierarchy, our need for acceptance and validation, our needs for stability, and our success markers. These all create a pattern that can work with our self-safety and against.
If we cannot create self-safety for ourselves, we get triggered when our environment doesn't fit our needs. With an ever-changing environment, this makes for a lot of triggering!
We should have extremely high expectations that our environment is not unsafe and organisations need to be on this (and thanks to the new legislation hopefully they will).
We should also have high expectations that we know how to make ourselves safe.
Here are some things I teach that might be useful to check yourself on:
know your boundaries
know how to communicate your boundaries
know your wants
know how to communicate your wants
learn how to manage your state
learn how to manage your wellbeing
create trust and influence
know how to manage others' state
know how to manage your internal narrative
know how to alter your external situation
know how to move forward against discomfort
know how you make decisions, be proactive and deliberate
know how to change
And as a side note if you are in a leadership position, what are you doing to help others create self-safety? I'm not talking about creating psychological safety for the team (imperative) I 'm talking about individually created self-safety (also an imperative).
2nd April 2023
The Reconnected Retreat
The next Reconnected Retreat (with Amy and Alessandra Edwards) is now available for senior female leaders. Revive and reconnect to your true vital and vibrant self. By the end of the retreat, you will experience renewed mental clarity, strength and self-compassion. For $1200 only per person. Please note, as this is an intimate event, places are going to be strictly limited. For more information about this amazing journey to relaxation, click here.
One on One Coaching
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Taking bookings now for you or your colleagues for 2023. If you want coaching that goes 'a little deeper', please let Ellen know and we can talk about whether it would be suitable support@dramysilver.com.
