Whooah there's a lot of stress about...
It feels almost normal now right? A high level of stress. That can't be right, can it?
Fear isn't necessarily what caused this stress, but perhaps fear is making it worse?
Fear can push us toward unrealistic expectations — saying yes instead of saying no. It can paralyse us from making decisions, it can lead to perfectionism or struggles to let things go, it can make it hard to put up our boundaries favouring putting others first. It can interfere with action and moving forward, and we can get caught in doubt, indecision, in irritability and yup, you guessed it, all this adds to pre-existing stress.
Take stock of where fear adds to your stress
Look for where you:
have overcommitted
haven't asked for what you need or want
spend time worrying about what you should be doing instead of doing the thing you are doing
people please rather than keep to your boundaries
find yourself caught in decision making and not in action
struggle to keep your mind from darting around
over-prepare and over pressurise yourself, getting caught in a loop of fear of not being good enough
Fear is a sneaky disguise artist, posing as indecision, perfectionism, frustration, or irritation and it can absolutely be part of our stress. In fact, the loop can spiral, stress can feed your fear, and fear can feed your stress. So, probably time to stop, learn some management skills, and reevaluate where you can change some of this experience.
In this article in CPA's business magazine In the Black, I spoke to Johanna Leggatt about good stress and bad stress if you are looking for some tools to deal with stress.
.....oooooo and for fear management, lookout for some exciting news in the next blog, I cannot wait (look below for the teaser...!).
I'm excited...!
THE COURAGE CLUB APP
The new incarnation of The Courage Club is here....well nearly! This is going to be the place we can hang out together and we can work through a process that will unblock you from fear and worry.
I will help you step by step how to make the bolder choices that lead you to a more expanded version of you.
More information will be dropped on Instagram/FB/Linkedin next week!!!!!
And, if you were one of the people who were up for early adoption, thank you for your patience, we're coming to you soon!!!!
PODCAST!
Looking for a podcast to listen to this week?
I had the most wonderful chat with Julie Hyde on her podcast Making it Count about how to stop playing small. Gee, it was fun!
TAKING BOOKINGS FOR KEYNOTE SPEAKING FOR 2022/2023 (virtual/physical) Email Ellen via support@dramysilver.com to check dates for your event if you want your audience to understand how to stop fear interfering (with us as individuals or groups) so we head safely into our most powerful future together.